Enter Co-inhabitant #3
Co-inhabitants Hanging Out |
A little over a year ago, Beechnut and I returned from
several days away and were greeted by our pious cat, Rosie, otherwise known as
co-inhabitant #2. She mewed distaste at
our absence, then carefully inspected what we had brought home with us. Enter co-inhabitant #3, our first-born son. We’d
obediently followed advice, and the day before, Andy had come home from the
hospital and presented Rosie with one of the baby’s knitted caps. She turned her nose up at it, barely sniffing
it. Her reaction to him in the flesh was
much the same. Her reaction to us,
though, was loud and clear.
She gazed at us for what seemed like an eternity, then
without another mew, sauntered past us, through the threshold of our bedroom
door, leapt onto the bed and made herself at home. This may seem insignificant, but this
boldness was a clear act of defiance, a bargain.
You see, over the past few years, a dynamic had been established
between the inhabitants of the Culver House.
Beechnut, the original inhabitant of the slowly transforming bachelor
pad opened its doors to a lovely wife (co-inhabitant 1, but sometimes
co-inhabitant 2 when I do things like set the alarm for 5 am and then press
snooze over and over) and her cat (unless she is being really cute and well
behaved and then she is “our cat”). It
was a bachelor pad dreams are made of – two garages, endless tools, dartboard
and kegarator inside, cardboard boxes for bedside tables, a spool for a coffee
table.
While there was some jockeying around, Rosie soon learned
that she was the bottom rung when it came to the Culver House and, as such, was
not allowed on our bed or even past the threshold of our bedroom door. And she respected that – literally, we could
leave the door open and she wouldn’t put a paw past that imaginary line. On
this day of our return, however, she sensed a window of opportunity and pounced
on it.
The Early Days |
Okay, okay, I will permit you to bring another creature into
the house–FINE, but all of my rules must be immediately lifted. In exchange, I will refrain from peeing in
the closet on all of your favorite things or eating your baby. Too frightened of what we may face if we didn’t
let her have her way, we let her go, in silent defeat. In an instant, I had been
bumped to #3, leaving Baby B at #1, and Rosie at #2, but believing she was #1.
That night, our first official night of being parents without
the hospital safety (terrifying), I had my first inclination there might be a
LOT of parallels between taking care of a baby and taking care of a needy cat. Yes, I am seriously comparing my son to a cat. We locked Rosie in the front part of the house
with food, water, litter, ample room, windows, and everything she could ever
want, except humans. She threw herself
against the door and meowed over and over and we couldn’t tell the difference
between our slighted cat and our newborn crying. Over the next year, the parallels between cat
care and little human care began to stack up…..medicine delivery, meowing/crying,
the puking and pooping in inappropriate places, the free rides when they are
too tired/incapable/ too slow to move themselves, and so on.
For a while, Baby B and Rosie took no interest in each
other. Rosie would silently observe my
parenting from our bed and judge. She
had the look that said, “I was always able to quiet my kittens down, what’s
your problem?” perfected. “And, no, the answer is not to bring him to my
bed. That’s right, I called it my
bed. Mew.”
Bonding |
More than a year later, where are we? B has developed a healthy interest in Rosie,
and is practicing the art of the “gentle pet”. Rosie is curious about B, but mostly
wary, especially now that he is moving independently. She loves to observe his meal times from the
back of the couch. They are certainly
beginning to form a relationship. Rosie
occasionally lets B linger near her before dashing off. Little does she know that the days before he
can catch her are now numbered. They have also learned to work together as a
team in activities such as furniture destruction. Rosie
tears holes in the furniture while sharpening her claws and B pulls out the
stuffing with delight. B no longer wakes
us up at night, but as he sleeps soundly, Rosie walks on our faces and tries to
burrow under the covers, ensuring we won’t sleep through the night or past 4
am. Yes, my status as #3 is more and
more firm.
Where does the leader of the Culver House fit into all of
this? Clearly, the co-inhabitants run
the roost.
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